Is it selfish to put myself before others? The answer is no, it’s not selfish! I’m sure at some point in life you heard the cliché saying “take care of yourself first, or you will have nothing left to give others.” I couldn’t agree with it more! We were all given a special temple.. our own body, mind and soul; and it is our responsibility to take good care of it.
It is important to not get self-care confused with self-absorbed. Self-care [by definition] is
So why is it when we practice self care and practice putting our own needs before the needs of others, it is seen as being selfish? Ask yourself this, what good are you to others if you are exhausted, stressed out, and unhappy? None. Don’t get me wrong, there is no doubt we would all do anything for a loved one (friend, parent, spouse, etc.); anything to help them feel better physically/emotionally. However, it’s imperative to look after yourself, too. You can’t pour from an empty cup. Meaning if you give all that you have, there will be none left for yourself.
3 easy ways for you to take care of YOU:
- Pamper yourself Take the time to have a spa day, go and get the massage that you deserve. Get your hair and nails done. Go for a walk/run; do something that relaxes you
- Don’t be afraid to say NO Protect your schedule. If you know you have a hectic week coming up, don’t feel obligated to make plans or squeeze in a bunch of last minute things. This will only result in you being [more] stressed
- Spend your money on what matters We all spend it wastefully every now and then, which is to be expected. But you want to spend it on what matters to you; when we’re stressed, we tend to spend without thinking. 9 times out of 10 that makes things worse, considering money is a huge source of stress for a lot of us
Taking care of yourself may simply mean taking time to pamper yourself; it could be a weekend getaway, or simply doing some of your favorite relaxing activities. Whatever it is, take the time to do it! Your mind and body will thank you for it later! Its okay to get caught up in helping others, just make sure you recharge!